When you work
with Reverend Dave Miller, every ceremony ritual is optional and customizable. The
Hand Fasting ritual is something different that few brides have heard of. After seeing it
demonstrated or reading this page, most brides want to include it in their ceremony. For
that reason, it is always talked about and/or demonstrated at the first meeting.
Since the bride
and groom will remain tied up after the Hand Fasting, it is done very near the end of
the ceremony. The only rituals that come after it are the proclamation (By the power
vested in me...), and the presentation (Ladies and gentlemen, may I present Mr.
and Mrs. ________).
The bride & groom
should already be facing their guests. As is Reverend Dave's preference, the bride and
groom face each other or their guests for every part of the ceremony, except the very
first opening remarks.
Facing their guests,
the Hand Fasting begins with the bride and groom putting their inner arms together, outstretched.
Someone, usually the Maid/Matron of Honor, takes the first rope, wraps their wrists, and gives
them the free ends. The bride & groom must tie themselves together.
As they begin to tie the
knot, Reverend Dave tells the guests what is going on: "Ladies and gentlemen, their first
task as husband and wife, is a test of teamwork. _____ and _____ are to tie one arm together
using only their free arm.
" 'Hand Fasting'
is a tradition that dates back at least to the early 1500's, from Scotland, although there
is some evidence that it has older and more diverse origins. Many believe this ritual is the
origin of the wedding term 'Tie the Knot.' "
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